When things change, when crises happen, when conflicts arise, we sometimes react by freaking out. That is especially true when what is happening is a threat to our security or a threat to our sense of self. When life as we know starts to become unstable and appears as though it may collapse altogether, we tend to go into a state of emotional shock and psychological confusion. "What will I do now? How will I survive this? What about all those years and money I invested? What will happen next?" When we are unprepared, we can get swept up in the chaos and go into an emotional frenzy as a result. Part of the key to not freaking out and moving consciously from struggle to strength is to break any emotionally reactive cycle that's throwing you off balance.
So how do you not freak out and keep it together in the midst of chaos or crisis? Here are 3 quick tips to help you move from struggle to strength.
- Don't panic, process the moment.
Slam on the brakes if you see yourself going into a tailspin. Stop, breathe and look objectively at what's happening. Don't react. Just observe and acknowledge. - Assess and respond to the real issue.
In a crisis, we can become consumed with an imagined or feared future outcome and become blind to the immediate issue that needs to be addressed. Separate what it really happening in the moment from what you are worried is happening or worried will happen. This can help you discern the real issue rather than be distracted by its symptoms. - Look for the opportunity, don't focus on the obstacle.
If you are feeling stuck, trapped, or like you're about to go under, raise your focus above your limitation. What door can you open? What page can you turn? What new thing can you try? Looking for or creating an opening can disconnect the panic button so you can discover a new path.