Life-changing decisions can be so intimidating. You spend days and even weeks juggling between the options in front of you. All you really want to do is make the best decision, but it's stressing you out. Your gut instinct tells you to go one way, but you still hesitate.
Indecisiveness can make some situations more difficult than they need to be. But what's causing your indecisiveness? It could be insecurity.
Insecurity clouds your judgment and causes you to second-guess your intuition. It can happen to anyone.
Here's how you know intuition is guiding you in the right direction:
- You have the nagging feeling… You've made a decision. But now you have that nagging feeling that it's wrong or something is not quite right. You can't stop thinking about it. When deep down you know the right thing, you'll feel intuition pushing you to follow it and bring peace of mind.
- You feel sad when you go against your intuition. You usually feel relieved when you choose the option your intuition tells you. You feel as if a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. So if you feel heavy after the decision, it probably means you've made an unfavorable choice.
It's possible to feel sad after a tough decision if there is a negative impact on others. But that sadness should go away quickly if you've made a decision that's truly right for you and understand the bigger picture and its impact.
If you've fallen victim to either of these scenarios, you're probably being impacted by insecurities:
- You ask for the opinion of others. Usually, insecurity manifests itself in doubts. If you find yourself asking others for opinions on your potential decision, it suggests you aren't fully sold on it yourself.
- It's always okay to seek advice. However, you're grabbing at straws if you're allowing opinions to take precedence over your own thoughts or are constantly seeking out advice.
- Bear in mind that the opinions of others may very well be based on those people trying to fulfill their own needs.
- You're considering the feelings of others first. When you consider how your decision can affect someone else first, chances are you're insecure about something. If you're struggling with a decision that will be life-changing for you, consider your own feelings first.
- Are you afraid of what others might think? Or are you concerned about how they may view you after the decision? Remember that your true supporters will support you in whatever decision you know will be best for you. The opinions of others aren't your priority—you are!
Your values and morals are reflected in your intuition. Once you develop a system for decision-making based on your values and morals, it's likely going to be much easier to make important decisions. After a while, you'll realize that the most important opinion is your own. Embrace your decision-making abilities so you can eliminate insecurities.
Start by believing in yourself and taking bold steps based on what your instincts tell you.